Trigger Warnings: Sexual content, alcohol missue, non-consenual sexual inciden
Boltz Birmingham is known for its unapologetically seedy/slutty vibe, in the best possible way, and is now home to the monthly XXL Birmingham event, a club night I've enjoyed for more than 10 years.
Getting Ready
XXL Birmingham usually starts with pre-drinks at the hotel with my friends. Grindr open, chatting to horny men, getting in the mood for the night ahead. There's something thrilling about the anticipation, the messages becoming bolder as the drinks flow.
The dress code for XXL is masc presenting (there's some problematic toxicity around XXL's admittance policy, but it seems to be easing recently). I opted for a pair of low-slung jeans, an open shirt, and a jock. The leather harness is the extra touch.
Excited, we were ready to hit the club. There’s an undeniable thrill in preparing for a night like this—choosing the right outfit, feeling the anticipation build, and knowing that the night promises adventure.
Arriving at Boltz
Boltz is a large, open-plan venue pulsing with good music. The atmosphere has that perfect mix of seedy and sexy, exactly what I was hoping for. The entry process was smooth: pay your ten quid and you're in. There's a cloakroom for those that want or need it. It's not unusual to see the punters walking around with their arses hanging out of their jocks, or indeed, totally naked - an those clothes gotta be stored somewhere right?
Once inside, it was clear that this was going to be an unforgettable night. The club's layout, with its dark corners, rooms, and hidden nooks, set the stage for the night's adventures.
The XXL Experience
The club itself is a labyrinth of pleasures. The darkroom a mass of writhing bodies and wandering hands, creating an intimate yet thrilling experience. Imagine a space where boundaries blur, and the only rule is mutual pleasure.
The dance floor wasn’t much different, with men grinding to the beat, letting loose in the most liberating way. Bears, cubs, and admirers mingled effortlessly, creating a scene that was both primal and exhilarating.
One particularly memorable encounter in the darkroom stands out. Amidst the shadows and the low hum of whispered conversations, I found myself locked in a passionate embrace with a heavy-set bear. His strong hands roamed freely, and there was an unspoken understanding between us. It was raw, it was real, and it was everything I had hoped for.
Consent and safety are paramount in settings like this. Know your boundaries and insist people respect them; take whatever protective steps you think are right for you.
Highlights of the Night
Navigating through the darkroom felt like an adventure, with every step leading to new and exciting interactions. It was impossible not to get lost in the moment, surrounded by like-minded men all looking for a good time. The play spaces were particularly popular, with groups of men exploring their fantasies in a safe and consensual environment. The variety of body types and personalities added to the richness of the experience, making it a night to remember.
One standout moment was on the dance floor. A cub with a mischievous grin and not much in the way of modesty caught my eye. We danced close, the music pounding through us, before retreating to a quieter corner. It’s moments like these that make XXL fun—the unexpected connections that turn into unforgettable memories.
Know Your Limits
The very first time I went to XXL (almost 10 years ago), my friend ended up so drunk he passed out in the darkroom. He woke up after at least three guys had covered his face in spunk. It wasn't a sexy experience—it was a violation, it was abuse. There are people out there who act in ways that are utterly deplorable, so while the drunk dancing and horny sex in a club can be fun, don't put yourself at risk by losing control. Report anything that is abusive to staff, doormen, or the police—take sensible measures to keep yourself safe.
Wrapping Up the Night
Back to this visit, and the night is drawing to a close. I left Boltz with a new friend who decided to join me back at my hotel. The night didn’t just end at the club; it continued back at our place.
Remember though, it's not a good end to the night unless you call for cheesy chips and a battered sausage on the way home - even if you have a new mate to entertain...
Final Thoughts
XXL at Boltz is a playground for those who are ready to embrace their desires in a judgement-free zone. If you’re planning your first visit, my advice is simple: let go of any inhibitions and dive headfirst into the experience.
Always prioritise protection and consent; these are the keys to ensuring a fun and safe experience for everyone.
Whether you're a bear, a cub, or an admirer, XXL offers a space where you can be yourself, explore your fantasies, and connect with others who share your passions. So next time you're in Birmingham and looking for an unforgettable night, head to Boltz for XXL—you won't be disappointed.