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When most people hear ‘chastity’, they think of that old-school crap about virginity and control. But in the BDSM scene? It’s a whole different ball game. It’s about getting your rocks off while feeling submissive. And every October, the kink community goes wild for Locktober—a whole month of locking it up and letting loose!
What’s Chastity All About?
In the BDSM world, chastity isn’t about punishing anyone. It’s a fucking fun way to play with control. You shove your, or their cock in a cage—handing the key to a partner or holding it yourself. It’s all about that thrill of giving up control and finding pleasure in being denied.
Why Do Locktober?
So, why do folks get into Locktober? For a lot of people, it’s a rush to be locked up for 31 straight days. For me it's all about that “frustrated” feeling from being in chastity. It’s not just the cage; it’s about feeling submissive as hell. And trust me, when you’re out and about locked up, the teasing can be downright fucking electric.
I remember the first time I did Locktober. About a week in, I was straining like mad in that cage. Every little movement felt like a reminder of what I was missing. And let me tell you, waking up in the middle of the night, feeling that pressure building, was both torturous and thrilling. You can’t help but wonder if anyone can see through your pants, if they know what you’re hiding. That mix of embarrassment and excitement is hot as fuck.
Public Toilets and Total Embarrassment
Now, let’s talk about a truly humiliating moment I had when I was out with my boyfriend Kevin. I was locked up tight, and nature called. I walked into the loo, and as I was standing there trying to do my business our mates barged in, laughing and joking, and wouldn’t you know it—they clocked my cage!
The look on their faces was priceless. They took one look at my situation and started howling with laughter, taking the absolute piss out of me. “What’s that, mate? A little cock prison?” they joked. My face burned, turning lobster red. The shame washed over me, but there was a twisted thrill in knowing they could see me completely exposed, locked up like a naughty little sub. I was mortified, trying to act nonchalant while they kept ribbing me, and honestly, it made the whole experience that much more electrifying.
The Real Deal on Locktober
But let’s cut the bullshit—Locktober isn’t all sunshine and rainbows. I learned the hard way that cheap cages are a nightmare. You need to invest in a decent one, or you’ll be in pain.
Sleeping while locked can be a bitch too, and you might wake up a few times feeling like you’re stuck in a vice.
After about two weeks, I started having these wild wet dreams. Seriously, I woke up drenched, both from the dream and the frustration of being locked up. It’s like his body knows what it wants, and it’s not getting it. Talk about a tease!
Consent Is Everything
Yeah, the dom, or the key holder might seem in charge, but the sub is the one with the real power. You call the shots on what happens to your body. That’s where trust kicks in. It’s all about feeling safe while exploring your sub side.
Explore at Your Own Speed
While I jumped headfirst into Locktober, Mike, my mate is just starting to explore his subby side and he prefers to take it slow. He believes exploring should be a fun ride, not a pressure cooker. You don’t have to dive into the deep end right away either. Find someone you trust and start off easy—no need to rush into anything hardcore right away.
Humiliation: The Cherry on Top
Now, let’s talk about the humiliation factor. There’s something electrifying about knowing you’re locked up while others aren’t. I remember being at a party, surrounded by friends who had no idea what I was hiding. The thought of them maybe catching a glimpse of my bulge, knowing I was completely at Kev's mercy, drove us both wild. The teasing, the playful comments, it all adds to that feeling of submission. It’s a bit embarrassing, sure, but that’s the point. I was surrendering control, and that’s part of the thrill.
Join the Community
The best part? You’re not alone in this. There are loads of online groups like TeamLocked and EmlaLock that are packed with support and advice. Just be careful when picking a keyholder—make sure they’ve got your back and aren’t out to screw you over. Trust is everything, and there are real folks out there who want to help you enjoy the experience.
Wrapping It Up
So, as October rolls around, think about what chastity and Locktober might mean for you. Whether you’re just curious or ready to dive in headfirst, give it a go. Experiment, explore, and most importantly, have a fucking blast. This is your journey, so make it exactly what you want.