Trigger Warnings: Sexual references, Adult language
Living with ADHD as an adult can be thrilling, unpredictable, and sometimes downright terrifying. One of the most intense aspects of this whirlwind is ADHD risk-taking behaviour. For those of us with ADHD, the lure of impulsivity can lead us down some exciting, yet risky paths. Whether it’s splurging on things we don’t need or diving into spontaneous sexual situations, the stakes are high. Let’s explore what this means and how to navigate it.
Understanding ADHD
ADHD isn’t just something kids grow out of. Many adults live with ADHD, dealing with symptoms like inattentiveness, hyperactivity, and impulsivity. And no, we’re not just lazy or unmotivated. Our brains are wired differently, often making focus a monumental challenge. The hyperactive stereotype doesn’t always fit either—many of us, myself included, struggle more with distraction and impulsiveness.
ADHD Risk-Taking
So, why are we more prone to taking risks? It’s all about dopamine, the brain’s feel-good chemical. Our brains crave stimulation, and taking risks provides a quick hit. Neurologically, ADHD can make it harder to assess long-term consequences, leading to those “What was I thinking?” moments.
Common Risk-Taking Behaviours
For me, the predominant risk-taking activities are financial and sexual. I spend money I don’t have to buy things I don’t need, on ideas I shouldn’t have had. Once an idea catches my attention, it becomes an all-consuming focus. I’ll research it extensively and convince myself it’s a must-have. Once purchased, it often gathers dust. Sound familiar?
Then there’s the sexual side. Think lots of partners, having sex in places I shouldn’t, with people I shouldn’t. Saying yes to spur-of-the-moment encounters without regard for the risk. It’s thrilling but scary at times.
Personal Stories and Experiences
The iPad pro that is now a photo frame, the PlayStation 5 that I had to have but only ever play Fortnite on. The fourth attempt at getting into Warhammer 40K just because the artwork looked amazing. The jungle in my living room that started with a single plot potted plant. The hot guy I followed off the nudist beach into the secluded woods and railed. Getting into the muscle bear’s car without knowing his name (but I’d seen his private albums, and with an arse like that he has to be a nice guy). These are just some of the silly, impulsive and reckless things I have done.
Managing Risk-Taking Behaviour
Managing these impulses isn’t about eliminating them but finding balance. Therapy has been incredibly helpful for me, providing strategies to manage impulsivity. Waiting a few days before big purchases and keeping an open dialogue with my partners about my sexual activities helps, sharing my location so they can keep me physically safe.
The Positives of ADHD
It’s not all bad news. ADHD can make us fun to be around. Our impulsivity often translates into spontaneity, bringing excitement into our lives and those around us. We’re the life of the party, always ready for an adventure.
Misconceptions About ADHD in Adulthood
Let’s debunk some myths:
- ADHD isn’t just a childhood disorder; it follows into adulthood.
- We’re not lazy or unmotivated; our brains just operate differently.
- It’s not all about hyperactivity; inattentiveness and impulsivity are major players.
- Medication isn’t the only solution; therapy, support groups, and strategies play crucial roles.
- We can succeed; many adults with ADHD thrive, using their unique traits to their advantage.
Conclusion
Living with ADHD means embracing the chaos and finding ways to steer it. Yes, we take risks, but we can also manage them with the right strategies and support. So, here’s to navigating the wild ride of ADHD together—embracing the highs, managing the lows, and celebrating the unique perspective it brings to our lives. If you’re on this journey too, share your stories, seek support, and remember, you’re not alone.